Don't expect Boaz when you settled for Broke-az
It’s Valentine’s Day, Justin Bieber released his new album, and love is in the air!
I hate Valentine’s Day. I’m just lucky enough to have found a woman who hates it too! I mean, who needs a day to celebrate love when we celebrate love 365…awww….gush….puke…
Last year, I wrote a piece called, “10 ways to not suck at marriage.” It’s still one of my favorite blogs. I also wrote a blog on my wedding anniversary titled, “Marriage is amazing!” In that blog, I told you I wrote a list when I was 24 of 17 non-negotiable character traits and desires that I had in a future spouse. I encouraged single people to make a list as well so like the title of this blog, you don’t settle. I never shared my list though…until now.
Here is the list of 17 non-negotiable character traits and desires I found in Julia…
Beautiful
Godly
Fun and a good sense of humor
Loyal
Honest
Noble Character
Supportive
Ministry and mission minded
Great legs/calves
No fp
Expectations to reach people for Jesus
Passion for students
Willing to teach
Strong yet humble
Slow to anger and able to view my perspective
Loving and caring
Puts others first
My pastor and best friend told me my list was too picky. Others told me that woman didn’t exist. I wrote those things believing that I would be satisfied with being single for the rest of my life unless everything on that list was found in someone who would want me. Enter Julia. She is all those things and more and I am so glad I didn’t settle. I’m glad my seasons of loneliness didn’t force me to compromise on the things that are important to me. So I encourage you to make a list.
If you’re single - make a list and wait.
If you’re dating - make a list and evaluate the person you’re with. Don’t stay together out of convenience or familiarity. This is your life we’re talking about. Keep your standard high. You’re too amazing to give yourself away to just anyone.